Dating for people with aids

16-Aug-2018 01:08 by 8 Comments

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It feels like I have to twist someone's arm to see past my HIV viral load.is not the greatest pick-up line, and it's certainly not great for my self-esteem.

It woke me up and made me realize what I needed and wanted from a partner.

I was living in New York City with a boyfriend I'll call Matt when I was diagnosed with HIV. It was my first steady, long-term relationship, and we did what I used to think of as "grown-up" things.

Like having Sunday football parties or fighting in Home Depot about what color to paint an accent wall in our living room.

When a person goes on treatment — I take one pill a day — undetectable is the goal.

Staying on treatment and keeping my viral load at undetectable levels means that I'm going to lead a long healthy life.

Even better, it means that there's no risk of sexual transmission, even if I don't use a condom (though I'm better at that now, obviously).

But many people are still unaware of this development in HIV treatment or are unwilling to accept the science because of the stigma that surrounds the virus.That's why I initially avoided the entire conversation when I tried to get my groove back after Matt.For a while, I either didn't disclose my status at all or disclosed way too late for a number of reasons.Taking care of your health is more adult than playing house with a boyfriend, yet, even though I had been tested for STIs, I had never thought of getting an HIV test.But one day, randomly, I added the HIV rapid test to the list of things to do before intake to my pap smear appointment.In the LGBTQ community, the absence of risk when it comes to sleeping with an undetectable partner, and using a condom to prevent other STIs, is much more widely accepted and normal, though still tough.