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A young woman told me that on dating sites she lists under "fetish" wanting to stare longingly into someone's eyes and to take sex slow.
Some see sex only in terms of , where what counts most is the boy enjoying it. Many girls seem cut off from their own sense of pleasure or intimacy. Girls and young women are under a lot of pressure to give boys and men what they want, to adopt pornified roles and behaviours, with their bodies being merely sex aids.
Young people are not learning about intimacy, friendship and love, but about cruelty and humiliation.
As a recent study found: "online mainstream pornography overwhelmingly centered on acts of violence and degradation toward women, the sexual behaviors exemplified in pornography skew away from intimacy and tenderness and typify patriarchal constructions of masculinity and femininity." It is intimacy and tenderness that so many girls and young women say they are looking for.
With offenders not able to differentiate between fantasy and reality, believing women are 'up for it' 24/7, ascribing to the myth that 'no means yes and yes means anal', oblivious to injuries caused and never ever considering consent.
We have seen a huge increase in deprivation of liberty, physical injuries, torture, drugging, filming and sharing footage without consent." The Australian Psychological Society estimates that adolescent boys are responsible for around 20% of rapes of adult women and between 30% and 50% of all reported sexual assaults of children.
Girls who don't undergo porn-inspired "Brazilian" waxing are often considered ugly or ungroomed (by boys as well as by other girls).
Some girls suffer physical injury from porn-inspired sexual acts, including anal sex.
Sexual bullying and harassment are part of daily life for many girls.
Young people are speaking out more and more about how these practices have links with pornography - and so they should, because they have most to lose.
The director of a domestic violence centre on the Gold Coast wrote to me a couple of years ago about the increase in porn-related injuries to girls aged 14 and up, from acts including torture: "In the past few years we have had a huge increase in intimate partner rape of women from 14 to 80 .
The biggest common denominator is consumption of porn by the offender.
Just last week , Emeritus Professor Freda Briggs argued that online pornography is turning children into copycat sexual predators - acting out on other children what they are seeing in porn.